Steve Orr
My Story
I love the arts; I am also a dancer, musician and composer. At the age of 19, I discovered the power of dance and movement during a semester abroad in Malaysia where I experienced Chinese Opera, Noh theater and Batik textile printing. Cut to a year later when I began a serious course of study in ballet, modern dance and jazz. At this time I was rolfed to improve the points on my feet. I've been a rock and roll band leader, a singing cocktail pianist, and in the midst of my performing career, I decided to become a licensed masseur by attending the Swedish Institute. For clips of me performing, visit https://www.youtube.com/user/stevenorr54
for poetry chrismcbeth.wordpress.com
for my novel "Comfort" comfortbysaintorr.wordpress.com
For miscellaneous reflections on M4M massage, healing, living in N.Y.C. and rants, please visit and/or subscribe to my blog on this site.
As I continue to evolve in my own life, recovery, resurrection and the power of self-effacing humor are reoccurring themes helping me to stay off anti-depressants and take each day (and each person I meet) with a grain of salt while continuing to work in the often wild, lawless and anarchistic world of M4M massage here in N.Y.C. Radical acceptance is my greatest therapist: along with creativity (writing and music) AND frequent visits to my rooftop--my fav chill-pill place. See you up there.
Once upon a time, NEW YORK MAGAZINE named me
"1 of the 10 Best Massage Therapists in NYC." I also appeared on
CNN-FN's show "Just In Time" before 6 million viewers.
Omnamashivya means I worship the highest within myself! Wahe Guru, Wahe Guru, Wahe Guru!
There is no such thing as failure, there is only a big, beautiful learning curve. I'm a great believer in resilience. The true mark of a man is not how much money or power he has, but his ability to recover, bounce back, pick himself up and accept life on life's terms (change). Please contact me if you find any typos on this site, for I'm lousy proofreader. Thanks.
Curriculum Vitae
-More than 3 decades doing deep tissue, sports massage and nurturing, relaxing massage for men; and Trans people.
-Five years experience providing hospice and palliative care massage privately and in the Family Care Center at Calvary Hospital in the Bronx, N.Y. This was probably my finest, shining moment in terms of massage gigs.
-Fitness instruction for cancer-survivor patients, and employees at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center
-Fitness instruction, stress relief exercise and Zumba dance for parents at the Child-Life Center-9th floor, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.
-Over two decades teaching Pilates (certified by Stott-Pilates), the Corp sisters (N.Y., N.Y.) and Zumba Gold group fitness certified.
Of Music
Music is the food of love; and next to health, muscle, dance, and sex, one of life's most exquisite joys. I write, play keys, sing and have produced one CD "Ocean Visions" and a variety of tracks. To listen or purchase music or audiobooks of my writing, see https://saintorr.bandcamp. You can often find me on Friday nights playing piano at Abrons Arts Center on the Lower Eastside: one of the city's most unique, richest and most hidden jewels. Thank you Abrons Arts Center and Henry Street Settlement.
Collaboration or exchange from other musicians or DJs is always welcome. I love old Progressive House for links to downloadable mixes see https://www.mixcloud.com/stevenorr54
and https://soundcloud.com/user-900012127
I love what I do and do what I love. Most clients are heaven scent and most sessions are bountiful, but sometimes the chemistry is just not there. Hey, it's no drama, just life. Then, of course there are the ghosts (no shows, weird or hateful texts or calls, etc.) It comes with the territory. After more than 30 years of doing this, this year for the first time I take the money up front. Post COVID has created a rough-edge to this work (and to this city) that wasn't here before. I personally believe technology is also a culprit here: quickly stealing away our humanity and our in person communication skills! That being said: there are no guarantees and if you book with me, you are responsible for the full fee, payment up front. No exceptions.
My usual fee is $120 incalls: $160 outcalls and the tip for both depends upon your income. If you prefer a deep tissue experience please come to me: that requires a table. I do not provide a table for outcalls.
I offer full body massage from head to toe. Specific questions about my Sacred Intimate work I'm happy to discuss in person. There is no set script or ritual to my sessions. Every massage is an individual as a fingerprint. To avoid misunderstanding I ask that you communicate your feelings and needs during our session. Clear intentions prevent misunderstanding and makes for a fruitful session for both of us. It is not necessary to send me your picture; nor do I send pictures or sext (both are well beyond my pay grade). I usually respond to calls via text if I don't recognize your number. And typically it takes a few minutes to book a session: not a half-hour or a series of excessive texts on your part. Also, if you are multitasking and it's taking you longer than a few minutes to book, I may interpret this as a form of ghosting, or an indication that you are an abusive or difficult client. Please be aware that when you contact me, I am on the clock and respect this.
The bodywork I offer is a healing, joyful gift that we, as consenting adults, are free to enjoy. Whether therapeutic or sensual, it is a unique freedom, ours to own and explore. Human kindness is free! Can we show gratitude and not attitude? With any freedom comes responsibility. It's easy to forget that the freedoms we enjoy and take for granted, daily, in New York City are taboo in many other parts of "Amerika" and many part of the world. I am constantly reminding myself to be responsible, respectful and to cherish this freedom especially as a queer/bi man in service of touch to other men: devoid of any sense of entitlement, abuse or underlying motive or manipulation. Hiring me involves a pact of mutual respect and trust. If you can't abide by this simple karmic rules, contact another.
TIPPING POLICY
My tipping policy is "According to your income." The average tip is $20-$40 on a $120 incall. This follows for the majority of my clients who are affluent enough (having disposable incomes) to be able to employ me for a massage, maybe once a month. I call these clients "working" or "Upper-middle class." If you are wealthy (own two houses or more or identify as "a part of the 1%") a tip of $100-$200 is appropriate, especially for very challenging work, such as prostate drainage, or activities that fall outside of a so-called "regular massage." Please be honest. I am at heart, a working-class-educated creative-artist "type." Doing massage for me is not a hobby, game, or side hustle (like so, so many of my cohorts) it is a profession in which I give 100%. Thank you for acknowledging that I am not just another anonymous number, flavor of the month or object to be used. It's appreciated more than you know.
Of course there are always extenuating circumstances, i.e., if you have cancer or are struggling (out of work, behind in the rent, AI took your job, laid up with a broken leg or joint replacement) let me know and we can work something out. I get it. Nothing is easy in life, especially for the 99% of us not born into generational wealth and especially with this current stupid, corrupt and greedy administration in Washington along with the excessively high cost of living in New York City. Thank you for your honesty.
On a lighter note you've reached the happy ending. Thanks for my visiting my site and have a healthy, happy, everything! Stay strong and take breaks from your phone and the news. And show yourself some love: get a massage, or climb up the stairs up to your roof and take in the loveless fascination of the stars. Mental health is just as important as physical or spiritual wellness. Amen again. PS. My proofreading skills suck. If you see a typo, let me know.