It's how you say it or dropping the mask 7-14-25

Tonight I went to my 3rd or 4th I Group Meeting of the Mankind Project. I'm still getting used to the lingo and not all that comfortable in the "Group" setting but I do feel a lot of gold is coming out of my being in a group of men (a "community" such as this)...it's an odd kind of playful wisdom I believe that I'm experiencing by rejoining my so-called brothers!

And I was going to bring up two hot topics that I felt triggered by and especially the fact that to my ears it sounded last week after all my processing "Whore this and that" and all the hard core mean gay shit I've been going through this year in my massage business....it was almost like I had a kind of exorcism or something...BECAUSE these men HAVE integrity...or at least they are trying!--Unlike the small percentage of mean gay men who book and don't show or book and try to steal money from me or hurt me. Yes it happens!

I'm blessed to reconnect and I hope I can continue to evolve...and it suddenly occurred to me that it's possible for one to talk about personal shit in the group---i.e., feeling used and abused by people and/or having suicidal thoughts (suicidal ideation)...but the fact of the matter is it is HOW you talk about your shadows in the group, your "charges" whether you are clear or not, etc., yes indeed HOW you talk about your stuff--that gives signs to others that they are in a safe space EVEN WITH YOU (ME) AND ALL MY LOOSE CANONS SHARING THE SPACE WITH THEM!

Lots of dogma...but it comes down to loving yourself...then you can truly love others...

cliche ridden as that sounds...

Happy 71st B-day to MOI.

Further--what ARE we talking about here? We are talking about triggers. In MKP speak they are known as charges. And when a man practices conscious self-wisdom (I hate to use the over used word mindfulness) but yeah--that's part of it--when a man recognizes something he experiences from others that triggers him (or blocks him or makes him "think that thought" be it about himself or others), to look and deal with this trigger instead of ignoring it, or seeking some addictive activity or action to dull it or cover it up, etc. OR just plain running from it) when a man takes the courageous step to look at his triggers / his charges...then that's a brave man. That's man who can grow. That's a man who is willing to stop the same old same old, step out of this comfort zone and BADA BING...EVOLVE. Thank you MKP...

Also something else about the meeting tonight...it's all about dropping the mask! Wow.