can a queer be Sexual and spiritual? 6-5-25

Is it possible to be sexual and spiritual?

My friend classifies lust as something bad. And he's queer. I’m re-thinking that and trying to embrace a more gentle view of my cock and the stuff it loves. If your sexual power is strong and it's in you, how can it be made when dealing with consenting adults? Our society is sex-a-phobic...especially when it comes to queer men and massage! Your a saint or a whore and nothing in between! I get so tired of that boring old dichotomy! There are a ga-zillion shades of grey people. Wake up!

As I’m writing this I’m about to begin advertising my massage services on Rentmen. This year has been one of the worst for my massage practice since 9-11 actually. That speaks volumes. Just one more thing to thank Orange-Headed POTUS for...

Not sure where the bottleneck lies; maybe it’s the two major sites I advertise on (Masseurfinder and Rentmasseur) have become a dumping ground for any guy who thinks he looks good in underwear and prides himself on being a pretend masseur because he’s cute. Whatever, I’m damn sure I need to up the ante and so I’m gonna bite the bullet and get my ad on Rentmen for the summer at least. Wish me luck!

As I expand my advertising to a more specific demographic of men; I will be increasing my rate. Clients who find me on Masseurfinder or Rentmasseur will see the same rates; $120 an hour plus tip depending upon your income; however my rates for clients who come from Rentmen will increase to $150 for the hour in-call and $200 hr. outcall, still I believe this is a bargain for a hot Daddy such as myself.

As I move into this new territory I look forward to more adventures and I simultaneously find myself working my D.B.T. construct of Rational mind, versus emotional mind and Wise-mind—that’s the mind in between the two. Also my harm reduction program is a Godsend. Three to Four days off from alcohol gives my energy a change to renew itself (thought the first day was hard—I so wanted a shot of my beloved Absinthe on day one of the non-drinking day this week) but I didn’t go there and my mind definitely had a chance to renew, regroup and recharge…

So here are a couple of points I wanted to revisit in this blog. A few of them are taken verbatim from “How Not to Be a Hot Mess” by Craig and Devon Hase.

When Buddha taught mindfulness he always taught it as a part of a whole. He never said “Pay attention to your breath and you will be free of suffering.” More like “Pay attention to your breath as a way of steadying your mind, and then look at your life.”

A couple of items here;

It it’s too hard to be kind (in this city, Lord knows it can be) then at the very least

Don’t be a dick…

2. Speak truth to power.

Recently I’ve been involed in a court case with an asshole landlord (Blue Star management Jeff and Josh—both slumlord assholes. The first thing I said to the DL fuckface lawyer who appeared the small claims court last week was “The law is on our side; we do not owe you any money.” Did anything else need to be said?

3. Go where it’s warm

(Often we may be attracted to situations or people (muscle hunks—i.e., straight guys who have very hot asses but underneath they are really straight (or gay for pay if not outright homophobic). These aren’t healthy men to be around, although our cock might be attracted…) beware. Also be aware of Energy Vampires (people who suck your energy or throw you curve balls to confuse you and get you off track), these can be men or women. Then there is the angry woman syndrome (probably hasn’t been laid in years and that pussy got some bats and moths up there folks). Beware, handle with kid gloves and keep strong boundaries. One can be pleasant but assertive about being detached.

4. Say what’s true

*Client called last night wanting dick pick—“It’s beyond my pay grade” I said; and before that I’d offered to do him now for special price of $100 for the hour. Maybe he didn’t hear or understand than I was being kind and offering him a deal, a special rate. It didn’t matter. He just was obsessed by seeing my tool. My only regret is that I didn’t’ block him so that I wouldn’t have to worry about him calling again! LOL.

5. Make Sex Good…this one’s easy…the only thing you have to worry about it your high PSA numbers; my latest reading was 10; whereas I usually run 5.5 or so (I think they say the usual number — WTF is usual? That’s 1.8 to 2; But by that I can only assume they are referring to an non-sexual straight guy who fucks his wife once a month or something.

6. Stay clear

That is all for now. Video to follow…

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